UnHealthy Work Environments: Petri Dish for Anxiety & Depression

 

It’s surreal to believe that I lived a life where “happiness” was brought to you by a little blue pill, calm was slipping a white dissoluble sweet sphere under my tongue and energy to drag myself through the day came from chugging venti skim lattes and red bulls. At the end of the day there was never any reprieve, I was still wired and dreading my tomorrows. This left me to drink a night cap along with one quarter pill of benedryl just to fall asleep and be able to do it all over again the following day. That was my life only 16 months ago!

Of course I had anxiety and depression. I only now had the realization hit me like a ton of bricks- I grew up with a paranoid schizophrenic father where walls were punched, doors broken off hinges and cops were called. To say that I had PTSD as a result of that upbringing is  pretty accurate.

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Letter of Resignation Template: BYE FELICIA

When you make a life changing decision to take a leap of faith it does not have to be pretty. It does not have to be graceful or even well thought out. Perfect is not even part of the equation.

The thing first and foremost on the mind of someone that wants to quit their job is  “how do I get rid of the pain, anxiety and dread of having to come into work each and every morning.” I think once you realize that you have to quit- self preservation and survival is imperative.
Quitting usually comes out of desperation and hitting a rock bottom in the position that you are currently in. Your life devolves into a triage mentality where all you want is to end the pain and rip the band aid off. You want to walk amongst the living once again. You want to drink from the fountain of happiness, love and prosperity that you’ve heard so much about.

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Resume Help: How Do I Get Started?

 

I know what it’s like to be in a job that you hate. It’s happened to me one too many times. I know there were many times when I had a rough week and resolved to update my resume over the weekend. When you are in that situation – you don’t quite know what is up and what is down. You can’t even begin to know how to get yourself out of this sticky situation.

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Mary’s on the Lamb: From New York City to California

Have you ever just sat there and thought- why can’t that be me? Why can’t I have the courage to do x y z? 
Life is funny. Three years ago, I had a boyfriend, a job in Private Equity, and had a roommate living in a two bedroom two bathroom apartment in Manhattan.

Looking back, I was poor as heck. All I had to keep me company were all these outside things. Status, job, cold hard cash and a relationship. I did not know myself and I did not have an understanding of my worth or who I was.

I said F*ck it to all that! I walked away from everything with my middle fingers in the air…
Now, almost 11 months into FUNemployment- I am happily in a deeply committed relationship with myself, I am no longer defined by my job or connections. I stand in all the glory that is being with my self. I am at complete peace – and there is no paycheck or dollar amount that can buy that!
I have been asked- what is the next step? What does one do after FUNemployment? 
PLOT TWIST TIME!
I have a huge announcement- I will be moving to Cali-freaking-fornia! Yes, you read that correctly. After 31 years, being born and raised in New York City. Having gone to college just steps away in upstate New York- I, Mary, will be moving to the West Coast. I am defecting to California!!!!
Never mind the fact that I do not currently have a drivers license and I currently do not have a place to live. Please disregard the fact that I do not have any family in Cali… Let’s not even mention that financials are where they should and ought to be after 1 full year of not working the rat race or the h*e stroll…
God is my driving instructor. He is also my realtor, he has been my financial planner and bank. God is my backup and my only plan. He is the CEO of Mary Inc. I do not care to know the how or the details of this coming to pass. Ladies and gentlemen I present to you the ultimate leap of faith. I surrender. I believe.
F*ck it! I am ready. Lead me where you’d have me go.

Why can’t it be you? Why the F*CK can’t it be you? I am not special. I gave up thinking “what if…” I gave up thinking “why can’t I…” soon enough, the goal is to give up thinking too.
The Universe has my back. I am no more special than you. It’s time to spread your wings and fly. You were meant to soar. All you need to do is JUMP. The Universe will meet you where you are if it sees that you mean business.
I am giving you up New York City. I would have never thought that I could have lived without you but here goes nothing…
Now onto the next chapter in this crazy book of life. 
What decisions would you make differently if you knew you could not fail? Once Monday comes around- would you still make it into work? Would you live in a different place? What’s holding you back from living your one wondrous awesome life to its fullest potential? 
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Hate Your Job? How About You CUT THE SH*T!

Things just got real. 

Well darling, I want to talk to you – yes, YOU- you who finds themselves working in a crap job and constantly ask yourself, “why me god? Why do I have to wake up another day, drag myself out of the comfort of my bed to go into a place I hate? My manager may not value me. My coworkers are mostly miserable (maybe even a touch unprofessional). I am doing thankless work. I am not getting paid enough to stay afloat. I feel utterly unfulfilled. I wish I could just quit. Tomorrow, maybe, I’ll work on my resume. I can’t stand it here…”
We are going to play a little game called “Cut the Sh*t!”© 
There is no one coming to save you! (Let that one sink in… then take the jump!!! Click on friends- to your first step to freedom)

There will be no caped superhero who will sweep you off your feet and there will most definitely be no prince charming riding in on a white horse. 

This is it, babe- you’ve only got YOU!!!
YOU– This magnificent being created as a miracle by an all knowing perfect Universe. 
Yours is a great legacy comprised of a lineage of ordinary human beings taking extraordinary steps. 
They were just like us (flesh & blood) and yet they were able to transcend and take courageous action that seems to move them closer to “special” or “extraordinary“.  But they were neither of those things. Life simply had great expectations for them and they rose to the occasion. 
Don’t wait for your circumstances to change. Don’t wait for perfection that never comes. Take accountability for your own actions. Years did not just fly by and you find yourself dropped here innocently- still in the same situation:

Monday– Go to crap job. Team meeting. Baby Jesus help me.
Tuesday– Bills don’t pay themselves…
Wednesday– Is it Friday yet?
Thursday– Sell your soul for a paycheck. Rat race is going strong.
Friday through Sunday- Dread the weekend because Monday always comes too soon.

Rinse & Repeat

All of thisis your doing!!!

You woke up today and chose to go in. On a moment to moment basis – you choose to sit in that chair. You stay put. 
You put in X number of years and think there is nothing outside of your current job and situation. This is just not true. 
You are not “stuck” in a job you hate. You are actively keeping yourself where you are. Stuck is what you are choosing Monday through Friday. 
You’ll keep getting what you’ve got if you stay. 
This present moment is an opportunity to choose differently. Only you are responsible for where you are and where you are going. You have the power. You can change the direction of your journey. 
Cut the Sh*t. © 

This is where you are meant to be, at this crossroad. You will either stay- reliving the same thing or you can forgive yourself. This is a lesson to be learned. Put in the work. Forgive yourself and choose differently. Have no anxiety. You have not fallen behind. You are exactly where you are meant to be – you are working on divine timing. It’s all in your hands… This is your chance, darling, show me what you’re made of!

(Game of Cut the Sh*t© brought to you by the good ol’ Cabrini Days – thank you ladies for making life amazing, staying friends until now and, as the young folk nowadays say – keeping it ONE HUNDRED… )

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